We're all on this journey, just at different pit stops
A beautiful thing about this journey of life is that we all can experience it differently. How sweet it is when we're blessed to join with that perfect 'other' to walk this path with us. I think it's safe to assume that we all have a 'type'. We've all had a checklist at some point of what we will or won't 'do'; but does your do's and don'ts list extend past the physical of a person. Should a person's appearance, style, or lack thereof determine whether they are worthy of being loved...by you? I shared an article on FB today highlighting how black women are embracing their naturalness again while weaves, perms, and wigs are getting played out. A brother commented that a sister with a weave, in his book, was finished before the conversation even started. This made me wonder, how often do we miss out on love, real love, by being blind to a person's inner beauty. Do men and women in the 'conscious' community fall victim, just as easily, to the "blacker than thou" mentality?
Hellllloooo ladies! :) I recently saw this image posted to the profile of a friend of mine. Needless to say, the caption caused QUITE the stir! Some women (and men) felt this was totally true. Especially in the case of housewives, stay-at-home moms, etc. While other women had an "I'm not his mama OR his prostitute" attitude about it.
Most married women OVERstand the value of keeping the spark lit in your relationship. Any wife worth her salt has been told at least a hundred times by our elders "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach". So sisters, what do you think? It seems the prevailing thought in todays culture is that 'he' needs to take care of 'ME' and take care of his own needs while he's at it.
Though this thought pattern is not scriptural...or even reasonable really, it is a rampant reality. Are we abandoning our roles in the relationship? Is it selfishness...or is it progress? Is 1 Corinthians 7:3 still relevant in the marriage of the 21st century? (Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.) Could this shift in the thinking of the woman be part of the cause of the fall of the black marriage and family? How does being subservient to 'his' needs make us feel as women? Are we ashamed of being "that" woman for our men?
Chime in and share your thoughts on this topic ladies... ; )
Greetings loves! All praises to the Highest for his Eternal Intellegence. As the season changes and the flowers re-emerge, my prayer is that we are all opening ourSELVES up to becoming renewed women in Christ.
If I have learned nothing else in the short span of my journey thus far, it's that change is a continuing process. To allow every twist, turn and unexpected hiccup to change us in the best way possible should remain the goal. Our journey has been divinely ordered by the One who knows which steps will lead to our greatest good. It is when we submit ourselves to that order that we become our greatest selves.
I'm the first to admit...telling me to submit was like telling me to jump off a bridge at one point. I could not fathom a life where I was not 'in control' of everything I was involved in. I had to have the first and last word...ALL the time. I had to be right...ALL the time. "My way or the highway" was more than a motto for me, it was a way of life...literally! No one could tell me anything, I refused to hear anyone. Then I stopped and realized... 'My way' was NOT working out for me. My life, in my control, was spiraling out of control. The thing I wanted most, a good man/husband, seemed to be fleeing from me like a fugitive! I didnt know what to do. The Bible was my last resort, and I found myself at my wit's end, ready to recieve whatever the scripture had to give me. I said my first prayer in a long while ("Father, make my desire your desire") and opened up.
I wanted to know what His advice was specifically for women. And wouldn't you know, all signs pointed to SUBMIT. So that's exactly what I did. I put away all the things I knew He didnt want for me. (Including the toxic relationship I thought I couldn't live without). I researched, read, and researched some more. I wanted to know why, if God created and commanded us to be submissive, did we hate it so much? I loaded my mind with the good and slowly burned out the old programming. figured, the One that created us, knew the best formula to make life work...so I studied and applied. My GOD, I felt renewed! More importantly, I felt strengthened. Things started going right. I recieved blessings and the things I so desperately needed became ALL I wanted. Last but certainly not least, I got my man!
Funny thing is, it had all been there all along. Right in my face. Fact was, until I could submit myself to the will of my all-knowing Father, I could have never given myself in total submission to ANY man, any blessing, or any obstacle. The sister in the video said it best, by submitting, we let ourselves know that not only do we have all the help/power/strength we need to face our challenges, we become stronger by allowing ourselves to let go of control and SUBMIT to the process! Remember sisters, change is continual. We will continue to be faced with situations that I JUST DONT WANNA submit to (I know I do!). That spirit of rebellion will try to rear her ugly head and tell us we dont have to... but we'll look back at where we came from, look around and see where we are, and ahead to where we'll be as we continue to overcome..and give thanks for being blessed with the desire and the POWER to submit to this beautiful journey. All honor and praises to the Most High!
Love, Peace, and Guidance to all my beautiful sisters!
Beautiful days to my beautiful sisters! I pray all is well balanced in your worlds :)
Welp...I'm sure we can all agree that the male/female dynamic in our community is one subject we all love to love and hate. I'll be the first to admit that I've been on th farthest ends of the love spectrum and just about everywhere in between. What better teacher than experience? If my experiences can better our love...it is my honor and pleasure to share them! Feel free to share your own(directly or hypothetically)...we are here to make our nation one of greatness...& we certainly cant build on bad relationships.
I know, I know..."the body follows the head" a.k.a. our men lead, we follow; so the state of our community is a refelction of 'them'. Well, I'll state the obvious...this page is not for them! lol. It's not our job to teach or lead them; but we can make changes in ourselves that will bring change to our men, families, and community.
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